Today is National Writing Day and to celebrate I want to inspire some of you to start blogging. I have teamed up with a bunch of other amazing bloggers who are all talking about different awareness or celebratory days in the month of June. I am here to bring you a post about this day so we can celebrate all things literature.
I always adored learning english ever since I was about six years old, I used to make my mum give me spelling tests on ridiculously hard words and I would read books that were alot more advanced. That carried on through secondary school, college and now into my adult life. I studied journalism for two years because of how much I loved to write and tell stories. When univeristy fell through, I took to blogging instead.
You don’t have to be the best writer in the world to set up a website, for free, and start rambling on about thoughts or your interests. It can be used as just a hobby or full time hustle.
It’s a way of journalling
My blog is full of everything I think, see, know and experience. Just like a journal but it’s public and out there for people to see (so make sure you don’t say anything mean). Blogging is a form of story telling, you might have heard this story in my previous blog posts but I started my blog from my love of writing and wanting to tell a story about how rubbish a makeup product was.
It will improve how you write
Even though I have always been great at English wether it be language or literature, there are some words I can find hard to spell. When I started blogging there were words I struggled to spell but after learning from my trusty Grammarly I have been able to grasp how to spell them correctly. That might be a little thing thats a bonus but it’ll help you tell stories much better too.
You’ll learn when writing
I have to do research even when I am writing about somehting I know, for example if i am talking about an eyeshadow palette I’ll do my research on when it was released or what ingredients go into it. During my research on multiple topics I always uncover facts I never knew. Did you know some companies crush beetles to make red eyeshadow? No? You do now.
Blogging opens doors
Personally I have known bloggers in the communtiy go onto writing books that get published, news outlets pick up their posts, we make friends, make money and even get business opportunities.
Blogging doesn’t have to be posts that are written perfectly, express yourself, rant and rave, talk about the things you love!
This is our third collab and I just want to say I am so very happy I met this great bunch of girls. We are a very tight friendhip group and have been helping eachother get through this lockdown! Make sure to follow them all down below! Can’t wait for the next on girls x
19th of May 2018 my blog was officially launched. It was something I had debated for a very long time but in the end, although I had no experience, I jumped straight into it and here we are two years on!
I have mentioned this here and there but the reason I started blogging was because of how much I enjoyed writing and I really wanted to rant about a rubbish makeup product I’d wasted my money on. To be honest when got everything set up I hadn’t really done any research into blogging because I thought it would be a doddle… WRONG. It can be hard wrapping your head about ways to get more views, earn money or have your posts show up on Google.
Two years on and I am still learning so much about what I do as my side hobby. I almost gave up many times, there were times where I felt like my content was useless or that no one wanted to be friends with me in the community. But it’s so easy just to give up, and if I had I wouldn’t be where I am right now.
I have had a lot of achievements, I don’t compare them to anyone else’s like I used to because I know if I do that I’ll be majorly disheartened. My first one was managing to increase my DA (domain authority) to 13. It’s not much but it’s better than 3 when I started.
I have managed to start getting paid opportunities which is absolutely fantastic, 90% of my posts aren’t paid but it’s nice when you get paid to do something you enjoy. It took me a while to get to that point because it all came down to DA.
Sometimes I can still feel like an outcast on a bad day but I have made some fantastic friends in the community whom I couldn’t be more grateful for. I have a bunch of girls who I currently collab with too – you can find that post here for the collab we all did.
Of course, I have had some lows too. If someone paints a pretty picture and make out it’s been a smooth ride then they’re either lying or not human.
I would say downfall wise in my two years of blogging is the consistency of posting. It can be tiresome when you have to get lots of posts ready and scheduled to go up on your blog. My consistency has been all over the place, sometimes laziness and sometimes something comes up in life. I wouldn’t say there are many more downfalls, I just keep making sure I am always kind and supportive to others in our community to avoid a negative vibe.
Goals for the future
I want to make sure I am increasing the traffic to my pages with the correct marketing tools. More paid opportunities would be great too, I think more will come if I blog more consistently.
I just want to keep blogging and keep enjoying what I do without any drama or negativity. One main goal is to also take more photos for my page, I see bloggers with incredible photos and then I realise mine might not look so great so they’re definitely things to improve on.
Always keep going and making the content you love, you’ll have that breakthrough at some point. If you’re thinking of starting a blog and need help, read my post here.
My blogging has been somewhat slow because I’ll be totally honest, I have been so unmotivated. My mental health is poor at the moment too. Just want normality back! Take care – Beth x
This lockdown has been quoted by Dr Elke Van Hoof as ‘the world’s biggest psychological experiment‘. And I completely agree with that quote, it’s been such a test for us all and our current mental health states. For me, personally, my mental health has ben on such a rollercoaster during this time. As I write this today I feel happy and optimistic wheras yesterday it was more of an anxious, on edge sort of day. Hit and miss.
I have been lucky enough to still be able to have chats with my therapist who really does help when things get too much, it’s like having reassurance or a warm hug through the screen. It might not be the same as going to in person sessions but it is the best that can be done for now. I feel like I am adjusting to being in lockdown but I have found more anxiety come as a result of that. But I am still trying to get through it and I want to share with you some of the things that have been helping me!
I stopped reading the news/ deleted apps
As my great therapist says, you can’t always avoid a trigger. Which is very true, but you can also put some measures in place to avoid things that make you inhappy. Tiktok for instance was making me feel constantly triggered as people would make jokes about horrible things me and millions of others had been through, these reminders kept popping up for me and making it harder for me to keep safe during lockdown. So, I deleted the app. On twitter, I have muted so many words that talk about topics I am sick of hearing about, COVID-19 is the obvious one. It might seem like a small step but it’s majorly helpful.
Learnt new things
As of right now I am learning/have learnt, many new things. I decided to learn new things and also expand on my skills in something I already have knowledge about! Drawing is something I have done for such a long time but never really went into the ins and outs of. Now I am doing illustrations as well as portraits, I’m finally able to use shading pencils. One thing to note though is even though we have alot of time to do things, you don’t always have to be productive. But by having goals to learn helps keep my brain from thiking about the bad things.
Connecting with people
When I can actually be bothered and look presentable, I have been making sure to stay in touch with friends and family who I cant see right now. A quick phone call or facetime with everyone struggling to get around one phone is the best way to not feeling so alone.
Bullet journaling is really helpful for me, when I feel really really low, I have a list in there of all the things I love so much about being alive. It gives me the strength to carry on living through any hard times. I can get lost but just taking a pen and doodling in my journal or writing about how frustration things are right now.
Unfortunatley mental health services were strethced before the current situation but now they’re stretched more than ever, because of this here are a few reasources that can help you out if you aren’t able to speak to anyone. If you or anyone you know is really struggling and can’t seem to feel better then here are a list of helplines you can call, just to chat to a trained advisor and get it off your chest.
MIND – UK 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm)
SANEline UK. If you’re experiencing a mental health problem or supporting someone else, you can call SANEline on 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day).
Papyrus HOPELINEUK. If you’re under 35 and struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about a young person who might be struggling, you can call Papyrus HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141 (weekdays 10am-10pm, weekends 2pm-10pm and bank holidays 2pm–10pm), email email@example.com or text 07786 209 697.
This post is part of a collaboration between me and a group of other talented, female bloggers. We have since started a group called the blog brew. All of their links are at the bottom of this post so please make sure to support their posts too! I wanted to bring you a post about things I am getting up to whilst being isolated.
In the UK we are about 3 weeks into lockdown, we can only go out for food shopping, medical care and one outdoor exercise activity per day. Being confined to a house, I have been trying to get as creative as possible! Please stay at home and stay safe.
Spending more time with family
My mum and dad both work 5 days a week so I don’t get much time with them to spend as a proper family. Having the time to spend with them now is the best thing ever, I am making sure we can stay focused by doing puzzles, playing board games, baking and being active. I even have made Thursday night our quiz nights! My family does get very competitive when it comes to board games though, do yours?
Watching movies & TV shows
I hopped on the bandwagon and got Disney+ to keep me entertained. I don’t really watch normal TV, just the odd game show here and there so having the ability to go and watch as many movies as I like is brilliant for me. I made a list of everything I wanted to see and I have gotten through it pretty quickly. There were loads of new releases I checked out, last night I watched Lady and The Tramp (2019) and then Bohemian Rhapsody! So amazing! My TV show of choice is Grey’s Anatomy and The ACT.
Setting Goals/learning new things
I have now got the time to do as many things as I would like to. I thought the best way to spend my time would be by being productive and learning a few things. My friend sent me a link to courses through Wowcher, I have found a makeup course which I’m now studying and will earn a certificate for at the end. When I started getting bored of lockdown by week 2, I decided to sit and make a list of all the things I wanted to learn and achieve by the end of it:
Learn to bullet journal
Learn more songs on the piano
Do a course of some sort
Learn how to draw illustrations
I have been a little bit reluctant to even go out walking now because people are idiotic and can’t seem to stick to the distancing rules so I have stayed away from going out and walking the dog. Instead, I have turned to online workouts, HIIT from home and playing football in the garden. In the first week of lockdown, I stayed on the sofa, didn’t move or workout but now I know that by getting my body moving will also help distract my mind too.
One of the main things is making sure I do have my chillout times. The excuse of not having any work to go to or being able to go out means I can spend more time sleeping in, playing as much Sims as I can and staying in my pj’s all day. Some days I am a little bit lazy and don’t get dressed or wake up till about 3pm but I might as well enjoy it whilst I can.
Even though I have been posting about COVID 19 and how I keep occupied, please learn the right tips to stay safe during this pandemic. Stay home, stay safe, protect our NHS. Take care – Bethx
The UK and most of the world is now on lockdown due to the coronavirus which means you can only drive to and from work, go out once a day to exercise and only go to the shop for essentials. It’s a testing and trying time for us all and I have only been without work since Thursday but I am already going slightly mad, I wanna give you some ideas for what you can do whilst in isolation/lockdown that can curb boredom and potentially help low mood.
Before I get into the list I just want everyone who is reading this to know no matter how alone we feel and how scary this all is we will get through it. Please be kind to each other in this time. I am scared just like everyone else but please hang in there. If you end up feeling really low, the Samaritans are operating as normal, call them on 116 123 or visit MIND for advice on how to cope.
Read a book/books
I am currently reading After Pt 2 by Anna Todd. I read the first one years ago and watched the movie on Netflix. I bought the book so I didn’t have to wait for ages for the second movie to come out, with all this extra time I think I will be able to read most of my bookshelf. You all have enough time to read now, even if it’s a book series you have read before like HarryPotter or Twilight, read it again. It’ll help your mind come away from the current madness we are living in.
Watch a TV series
There are insane amounts to choose from, Amazon Prime has a variety of programmes to stream, so has Netflix, 4oD, BBCIplayer. Some are free and some are paid for. It’s really good to have something to invest your time into, I have just finished watching SexEducation and now I am watching Lucifer on Amazonprime.
You don’t need an expensive art kit of paints and markers to create something great! Get some paper, a pencil and a pen and just go berzerk. Here is a link for you to do art with minimal supplies. I personally love to paint, before lockdown I went and got loads of supplies from Hobbycraft so my paint was stocked up. My recent painting was a willow tree on the lake, it was a gift to my mum for mothers day. If you’re serious about learning to do art better go on Skillshare, I used it before and highly recommend!
Perfect time to sit down and gut through all your clothing, clutter and things you don’t use anymore. Bag them up and take them to a donation centre or charity shop (check if they’re accepting at the moment due to COVID-19). Organise your wardrobes or makeup drawers, throw out what out of date in your food cupboards. Now is the best time to sit and gut the house.
Start a blog
This is the perfect time to start a blog when you have all this time! If you’re struggling to get started then follow my post on how to do it here. My fellow bloggers, this is the perfect time for us to give our blogs makeovers and create new content. I have been able to schedule so many posts to save me the stress of writing them hours of days before. Find something you love and talk about it! Even blog about life during lockdown.
Give yourself a makeover
Nothing wrong with how you already look but there is plenty of time to invent a new you. But by this, I don’t mean shave off all your hair, but maybe I do. Treat yourself to a new look, I cut all my hair off recently and it was a great experience which I looked better at the end of. Get some tan on, paint your nails, shave, exfoliate. Just treat and pamper yourself.
Even though it doesn’t cure depression for some, it does help. Get your trainers on or get the dog and walk. Or if you prefer to stay inside then do a home workout, there are thousands to choose from on Youtube all for FREE. I have been using my allowance of one walk outside a day to take the dog on a 5-mile run. You don’t have to be extreme, just keep moving.
There is plenty of time to watch all 8 Harry Potter films at once or rewatch every Star Wars film to ever be made. Use the time to make a list of all the movies you’ve wanted to watch but never have actually got round to doing. For me, I want to watch: •10 Things I Hate About You •Dirty Dancing •Bohemian Rapsody.
Learn a new hobby/skill
Guitar? Learn it. How to sew? Learn it. Play the piano? Learn it. There are multiple videos on how to learn these things, people have uploaded lots of tutorials on youtube for the things you most want to learn. One of my new hobbies is cross stitching and it’s something I want to keep working on.
Learn to cook/bake
Cooking is a skill that I probably need to attain as my expertise only lays in cooking eggs on toast. It could be really good to learn how to cook especially of you’re a uni student who has had to come home for a bit. Learn to bake so you can bake your family a cake that says happy isolation!
Hope you’re all staying safe during this time, remember to follow advice from your government to ensure minimum exposure potentially to the coronavirus. Please look after yourselves. Take care – Beth x
Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes. Not everyone is an obvious toxic person as they don’t walk around with a huge sign stating it and it can be hard when they have also manipulated you into putting up with their nonsense. I wanted to talk about this as I have recently left multiple friendships/relationships that were extremely toxic and unhealthy. I want to showcase what it does to a person, how badly it affects your mental health and how life afterwards really is.
Before we head straight into the post I just want to point out I am talking from personal experience, my advice is my own opinion and everyone’s situation is different!
I have been in multiple toxic friendships/relationships over the course of my life, I’m only 22 so I have obviously put up with and been through a lot for my age. Being in one is one of the most tiring things I think I have ever endured. For some people, it might be less severe than that but in my experience, it’s been draining. Toxicity has a fine line of being just toxic and then being abusive, I, unfortunately, have suffered being in both of these situations and I am sure my readers have been also.
If I was to be kind to myself I would describe myself as a nice, caring person who wants to help anyone I can. That in itself can make you a little naive and susceptible to being taken advantage of by people who couldn’t care less about you. Wanting to please someone all the time is something I have naturally struggled with since being a child and has reflected into all of my friendships and relationships throughout life. If you’re anything like me you understand what I mean when I say you’d bend over backwards for someone even if they weren’t giving you anything in return. Even after people around me had pointed out these people were using me and were cruel I still thought I was the problem and maybe it was me that wasn’t doing enough. How wrong was I…
As mentioned before, toxic people come in all shapes and sizes, most commonly friends and partners. Although, some parents can also be toxic towards their children also. People do usually show signs and red flags, but, we easily ignore them because we want to be accepted or loved. It is pretty common.
They use manipulative tactics to make life as hard as it can be for you. Making someone feel as small as they can is essential to them!
“This ‘friend’ slowly turned me against my true friends. I had looked up to her and admired her, and I was always seeking for her approval. She would reward make me feel happy and rewarded whenever I ignored another friend or said something terrible to them. ” – athenachristy.wordpress.com
It can be extremely stressful when you have to deal with someone who is toxic. For me it would be feeling so sick to check my phone I would turn it off for days on end, if I knew I’d be left on read I would have to delete the conversation with this person so I’d be able to go back onto the app we were talking on without feeling obsessive about checking when they were last online or if they were replying. My hair would fall out in clumps and I’d feel unwell having to deal with these people in my life. Everyone else’s reaction does vary.
“Stressed. If I wasn’t doing what she wanted me to, she’d give me the silent treatment. I was always walking on egg shells around her. But don’t get me wrong when she was nice, she was lovely! But when she was “moody” for lack of a better word, it was awful.” – chimmyville.co.uk
I’d always feel this horrible feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach if I knew I would have to deal with these people/person.
“I found it so difficult to sleep, was unable to eat and couldn’t face going to work (we worked together. I would be so worried every day and I couldn’t concentrate on anything else.”
Life after being in a relationship or friendship with a toxic person is extremely hard. I still find myself finding dating and making friends hard because of past problems. I fear it’ll repeat again. You also become somewhat programmed to expect people are going to use or mistreat you and that your past experience will repeat itself all over again. For some of you, life after being around a toxic person might be able to resume back to normal fairly quickly but for others, it can take time. It is so easy to go over what happened but eventually, you’ll look back and praise yourself for getting out of it when you did! I sometimes still find it tough looking back but it’s something we will get through. Everyone’s healing is different.
“I think the hardest part of this was having no explanation as to why. I started questioning myself. Did I do something wrong? What did I do? Did she never like me at all? I went through so much doubt, frustration, and anger. After having a couple years to mull it over, I now know this was for the best. And it doesn’t matter what the reason was. Clearly, she was never as invested as me, and didn’t treat me with the same respect. Of course, that wasn’t fair to me. I’m lucky the friendship ended when it did; that finally opened my eyes.” – Haley @ introvertedcreativity.com/
“Heartbroken, I still am.. The person in general I loved to bits so it hurts to loose someone you were so close to, but at the same time.. that constant feeling of worry and stress was lifted. I guess what I’m trying to say is.. You may love a partner/friend so much that you don’t realise how toxic that person is to you untill you let them go.” –mrssleejones.com
You’re not alone in the way someone is making you feel, talk to someone about what it is or how you’re feeling about the situation. Don’t suffer in silence! For me when things got really difficult with these friends and partners I spoke to my mum every time. Having someone that can shed some light or clarity onto things is very helpful. If you get really down and depressed, if your mental health is really deteriorating then please talk to a GP or ring a hotline. Look after number 1!
I wanted to say a quick thank you to all the ladies that helped me out with my post by sharing their experiences, their links are included in the post so go check them all out! It’s really brave and just shows we aren’t alone in all this. I hope my readers enjoyed this post and could also have learned something about dealing with toxic people. Stay safe out there! Take care – Beth x
Blogging is not as easy as it seems, it takes practice and a lot of patience. I have been blogging for two years now, I started out the blue when I wanted to rant about a foundation I wasted my money on and voila. Themakeupbybeth was born. I am nowhere near a high follower blogger or well known in the community but, I want to use the knowledge I have to help you kickstart a blog and keep growing. Be aware that some of the terminologies that I have used in this post might confuse you a bit, but I’ll make sure I explain it all for you.
Key terms you’ll need to know:
SEO – Search Engine Optimisation. This means how your site ranks on search engine results. When we talk about working on SEO it’s to make sure posts will reach those top pages of search engine results.
Backlinks – For example, if I made a post about a friends blog, by putting their link in my post would be classed as a backlink. Listing your blog link on your social media would also be classed as a backlink. Once again, they are essential for traffic and growth.
Niche – When we say a niche audience we mean a target audience that is interested in something specific but a subgroup version, so let’s say I am creating a craft magazine, you would usually create content like painting or sewing. But to have a niche would be those specific people that love knitting and want knitting content. Targetting your niche can make your blog more unique and direct more traffic.
Monetisation – Earning revenue from the traffic that comes to your site.
How to get started
When you start a blog it can all be done without any money, TOTALLY FREE! If you’re wanting to get more out of the blogging website you use, it may be beneficial to spend some money, for example, if you want a custom domain, you’ll usually have to pay.
Find a topic you like to talk about and get started!
I once used to blog about gaming and the sims 4, but then I fancied a change. I remember wanting to rant about a foundation that was a total waste of money and I have a passion for writing so blogging about makeup was the key thing for me to do. I have expanded on topics I like to write about as time has gone on but that all comes with
Find a website to blog from
I have tried multiple websites and I have found the best to be WordPress, yes, you do have to pay money if you want more benefits but to get started for free WordPress is a great site to start with. If you upgrade your plans on the site, you can also get monetisation for your blog.
Have a plan in place
The key to running a blog is making sure you have a content schedule that won’t burn you out. I used to blog twice a week when I first started and I ended up burning myself out and almost despised having to come to my computer to type a post out. Post every fortnight if it’s easier for you, just try and post once a week to make sure you keep getting traffic to your blog. Sometimes you might have to take a break for personal reasons so don’t worry too much if you have to leave your blog for a bit.
Finding your niche
It can sometimes be tough to find a niche and may take a long time of you blogging to actually be able to work out what’s what. Let’s say out of all your gaming posts, posts about using an Xbox console seems to be the most popular and has the most traffic. You’d then know your niche of people interested in gaming would generally be made up of Xbox users. For me, my niche is people who like drugstore makeup and they also like skincare, but to be even more specific, tips for oily skin.
Creating your blog name
Mine was quite easy, I wanted to incorporate the fact that I also did makeup as well as talk about it hence themakeupbybeth. It started as my Instagram handle and then just became the name for everything I do business-wise.
How to keep growing/tips
Guest posting is pretty clear, it’s when you write a piece for someone else’s blog. By doing this you will reach more people, grow your social following, improve your domain authority and increase backlinks. The way I find people who are willing to let me guest post for them is usually through social media.
We briefly went through what SEO was, even after two years of blogging I sometimes struggle grasping it still. To rank higher in the search engine, it’s key to look at trending keywords to put in your titles or to find a topic to talk about. If I go onto Google trends, I’ll type in beauty and it’ll show me related words that are very popular. The keywords I use will help my audience know what I am talking about and also will drive the people who enjoy that niche to my blog.
Don’t overkill hashtags, according to WordPress you should use 15 hashtags or less in your blog posts. If you’re sharing a blog post on Instagram, you can post 30 or fewer hashtags but they found that 11 hashtags generated the most engagement. If you’re using Twitter to share a post, the maximum amount of hashtags to use per tweet is around 3.
It is always helpful to share your posts on your social media so it reaches further. It is helpful to follow blog sharing accounts on Twitter especially. They are accounts with large followings that will share posts for you meaning more traffic and in most cases more social media followers. After posting one of my links yesterday my traffic increased by 55 people. Pinterest is also a HUGE essential to gain more traffic, here’s my new Pinterest below. As you can see you can easily pin your blog URLs directing people straight to your posts.
Comment on peers posts
When you comment on peers posts, not only does it create backlinks but it also directs traffic to your site. When I tweet out a link to my latest blog post in a sharing group, it’s almost like a read for read protocol. ‘If you read and comment on my post, I’ll be nice and return the favour’ is usually the way it goes with commenting. It’s also a great way to make connections in the blogosphere.
Sometimes it’s super easy to just crack out 300 words and call it a day, I think we are definitely all guilty of this. I just think maybe I am a little too lazy when it comes to a word count. You need to be aiming at 300-word minimum. The posts that contain 1000 words or more are proven to rank higher in the search engines.
To use images in your blog, to avoid any form of legal issues it’s always vital to ask the image owners permission before slapping their photos all over your blog post. For example, when I do makeup posts and I want to show a product that maybe I don’t physically have, I make sure I get in touch with websites to ask permission for photo use. Beauty Bay kindly lets me use their images as long as they are credited but always ask. If you just want images to add more depth to the post-use Pexels, which is a royalty-free photo site.
I wish you all the best of luck with your blogs, remember that progress and growth doesn’t happen overnight.
I really enjoyed doing something different for this post, I hope it was educational and informative for some of you! – Beth x
In the past, I have spoken about relationships, either when I have been in one or been single. I have been on all sides of the spectrum. Currently, I remain single for multiple reasons, mainly to work on myself before jumping into anything with anyone. But, that doesn’t mean I can’t get to know people and see where it may lead.
As a singleton, you can sometimes feel lonely or pressured to be with someone but it’s all about taking it at your own pace. I was the same and still am, preferably I like to take things slow and never rush.
I have resolutions for my dating life this year. Even though last year I had some horrible experiences in relationships and had my heart broken I was able to learn lessons about how important it is to always look after yourself in a relationship. This year after learning those things I would like to start getting back out there, back on the horse so to say. Dating can be quite hard, but I have teamed up with matchmehappy.co.uk to hopefully make the journey easier for me and you. For me personally, I prefer free dating sites or apps.
Let’s go through some of my resolutions for dating this year!
Make sure I can have safe fun on dates, loosen up a little more and not be afraid to be more humorous in front of potential partners. It can be hard not to seem a little scared of having fun when you feel nervous, as long as it’s safe then let’s all go for it and have a laugh.
Sometimes I have panicked about not knowing where I stand with someone so then the relationship has been insanely rushed to feel as though we were getting to the point of being ‘together together’. Rushing a relationship can easily head for disaster. So let’s say my lesson has been fully learnt when it comes to the speed of things.
Still enjoy my own life
It’s quite easy in a relationship to become fixated on your partner’s life and hobbies. Now, I want to make sure I can still be engaged in a relationship with someone and at the same time focus on my own life without losing track. It’s essential to always look after your wellbeing and mental health in a relationship as much as it’s important to make sure you are carrying on with your hobbies.
Being open is key and sometimes it can be tricky. But I aim to be able to be more open in relationships by not feeling like I cannot talk to my future partner about things that may bother me about them, myself or the relationship. Finding someone you feel you can talk to openly and fully is always an indicator that they are a great match for you.
I now know to always have an open mind, not to pressure myself or any situation when I am dating. Hopefully, some of you can relate to my resolutions.
Before we start the post I just wanted to say that with this post I am not showing off or trying to come off as spoilt. I just thought it would make a nice post showing the gifts I received, p.s there’s lots of makeup! Let me know what you got for Christmas in the comments below.
Of course, my family know I am obsessed with makeup, they know it’s my passion and what I love to do as my fulltime hobby. They’ve helped me add to my kit by giving me some palettes I desperately wanted, lippies and eyeliners that were all on my wish list this year. I got 4 palettes, Jeffree star jawbreaker, Blue Blood and Controversy Palette. And the Lunar Beauty Strawberry Palette which I want to post a review of. All these palettes are stunning! I also got a top-up of my go-to brow products. I would recommend Jeffree’s eyeshadows, that’s why I asked for them! I have reviewed some of his stuff in the past so feel free to view it here.
Bath & body
My friends and family know I don’t use Lush anymore so they bought me some bath products from Bomb Cosmetics and they’re the cutest! I have organised all my bath products into a cute basket so I can just grab and go when ready.
I got a couple of candles from my mum, Yankee candle of course. She also got me some pj’s, stationery and makeup bits as well. One of the things I love is a Harry Potter Dobby diary she got me! She’s trying to help me get organised which I fully appreciate. I got some gifts which I can’t use due to skin sensitivity but I will be donating those to homeless/women’s shelters. I advise you guys to do the same, instead of throwing the gifts away or letting them sit on a shelf give them to those neediest.
2020 already, it’s absolute madness. 2019 went by so quickly it was actually scary. But, here’s to the new year and here are my goals!
Fully invest in my blog
Not necessarily monetary wise, more of time-wise. This year I have been quite lax or poor mental health has made it that I can’t be bothered to blog anymore. Seeing the views and how much they’ve gone down is somewhat of a wake-up call that I need to keep posting/being creative with content so people don’t get bored. I hope to increase the visits and hopefully get around 1.5-3k for 2020. I have so many ideas planned and am wanting to get into a proper posting routine. I now have a MacBook too so I can write my blog at any time, any place.
Get invested back into makeup
Once again, this year I lost touch with makeup, down to mental health and other reasons. Other reasons being sometimes I became frustrated with the makeup community, working my butt off and not getting recognised. Also having looks stolen added to the frustration. It hurt and I kind of gave up, I had the mindset where I wasn’t creating for me anymore, I was creating for the approval of everyone else. I have obviously been given a lot of makeup gifts this Christmas so I have no excuse not to be experimenting with colours and new looks.
I’ll say increase fitness instead of weight loss because the words ‘weight loss’ have a negative stigma around them. I am wanting to get fit and get back into looking after my body, not just my mental health. I find that when I am looking after my body it helps my mind out too.
My organisation skills are awful! I don’t just mean organising things I need to do, I mean my living space too like my wardrobe, bedroom, social schedule. Get organised and stay organised. My mum was kind enough to get me a Harry Potter diary for Christmas so now I have no excuse to be all over the place.
Volunteer more of my time to those who need it
More and more I become aware of those bang on my doorstep who are struggling, struggling with abuse, drug abuse, poverty, homelessness and starvation. I want to give my time to helping people in need alongside everything else I want to achieve with my life. I would like to work with animals at some point, so help out at an RSPCA shelter or something of that nature. In January I’ll be donating some unwanted Christmas presents to women’s shelter in my local area. It’s nice to be nice and I encourage you to do the same.
Growing my followers
I know followers aren’t everything, but from a brands point of view they take into account your followers and that is one of the main factors when they decide if they want to work with you or not. I’d like to reach about 2-3k on Twitter and 1-2k on Instagram. Feel free to help me out by following my links below.
Get recognised by brands
This year I was recognised by some brands but the interaction was very limited. 2020 I’d love for a brand to repost me, share my looks, post me on their profile/story. I’d just love to get some recognition from brands that I love.
And here to hoping 2020 is better than what 2019 was! What are your resolutions, let me know in the comments below.
Have a safe and happy new year guys. All my love, see you in 2020 – Beth x