10 Things to Do Whilst in Self Isolation

The UK and most of the world is now on lockdown due to the coronavirus which means you can only drive to and from work, go out once a day to exercise and only go to the shop for essentials. It’s a testing and trying time for us all and I have only been without work since Thursday but I am already going slightly mad, I wanna give you some ideas for what you can do whilst in isolation/lockdown that can curb boredom and potentially help low mood.

Before I get into the list I just want everyone who is reading this to know no matter how alone we feel and how scary this all is we will get through it. Please be kind to each other in this time. I am scared just like everyone else but please hang in there. If you end up feeling really low, the Samaritans are operating as normal, call them on 116 123 or visit MIND for advice on how to cope.

 

Read a book/books

I am currently reading After Pt 2 by Anna Todd. I read the first one years ago and watched the movie on Netflix. I bought the book so I didn’t have to wait for ages for the second movie to come out, with all this extra time I think I will be able to read most of my bookshelf. You all have enough time to read now, even if it’s a book series you have read before like Harry Potter or Twilight, read it again. It’ll help your mind come away from the current madness we are living in.

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Watch a TV series

There are insane amounts to choose from, Amazon Prime has a variety of programmes to stream,  so has Netflix, 4oD, BBCIplayer. Some are free and some are paid for. It’s really good to have something to invest your time into, I have just finished watching Sex Education and now I am watching Lucifer on Amazon prime.

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Create Art

You don’t need an expensive art kit of paints and markers to create something great! Get some paper, a pencil and a pen and just go berzerk. Here is a link for you to do art with minimal supplies. I personally love to paint, before lockdown I went and got loads of supplies from Hobbycraft so my paint was stocked up. My recent painting was a willow tree on the lake, it was a gift to my mum for mothers day. If you’re serious about learning to do art better go on Skillshare, I used it before and highly recommend!

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Sort/Organise clutter

Perfect time to sit down and gut through all your clothing, clutter and things you don’t use anymore. Bag them up and take them to a donation centre or charity shop (check if they’re accepting at the moment due to COVID-19). Organise your wardrobes or makeup drawers, throw out what out of date in your food cupboards. Now is the best time to sit and gut the house.

Start a blog

This is the perfect time to start a blog when you have all this time! If you’re struggling to get started then follow my post on how to do it here. My fellow bloggers, this is the perfect time for us to give our blogs makeovers and create new content. I have been able to schedule so many posts to save me the stress of writing them hours of days before. Find something you love and talk about it! Even blog about life during lockdown.

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Give yourself a makeover

Nothing wrong with how you already look but there is plenty of time to invent a new you. But by this, I don’t mean shave off all your hair, but maybe I do. Treat yourself to a new look, I cut all my hair off recently and it was a great experience which I looked better at the end of. Get some tan on, paint your nails, shave, exfoliate. Just treat and pamper yourself.

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Workout

Even though it doesn’t cure depression for some, it does help. Get your trainers on or get the dog and walk. Or if you prefer to stay inside then do a home workout, there are thousands to choose from on Youtube all for FREE. I have been using my allowance of one walk outside a day to take the dog on a 5-mile run. You don’t have to be extreme, just keep moving.

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Movie marathon

There is plenty of time to watch all 8 Harry Potter films at once or rewatch every Star Wars film to ever be made. Use the time to make a list of all the movies you’ve wanted to watch but never have actually got round to doing. For me, I want to watch: •10 Things I Hate About You •Dirty Dancing •Bohemian Rapsody.

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Learn a new hobby/skill

Guitar? Learn it. How to sew? Learn it. Play the piano? Learn it. There are multiple videos on how to learn these things, people have uploaded lots of tutorials on youtube for the things you most want to learn. One of my new hobbies is cross stitching and it’s something I want to keep working on.

Learn to cook/bake

Cooking is a skill that I probably need to attain as my expertise only lays in cooking eggs on toast. It could be really good to learn how to cook especially of you’re a uni student who has had to come home for a bit. Learn to bake so you can bake your family a cake that says happy isolation!

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Hope you’re all staying safe during this time, remember to follow advice from your government to ensure minimum exposure potentially to the coronavirus. Please look after yourselves. Take care – Beth x

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Let’s Talk – Toxic Relationships

Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes. Not everyone is an obvious toxic person as they don’t walk around with a huge sign stating it and it can be hard when they have also manipulated you into putting up with their nonsense. I wanted to talk about this as I have recently left multiple friendships/relationships that were extremely toxic and unhealthy. I want to showcase what it does to a person, how badly it affects your mental health and how life afterwards really is.

Before we head straight into the post I just want to point out I am talking from personal experience, my advice is my own opinion and everyone’s situation is different!

I have been in multiple toxic friendships/relationships over the course of my life, I’m only 22 so I have obviously put up with and been through a lot for my age. Being in one is one of the most tiring things I think I have ever endured. For some people, it might be less severe than that but in my experience, it’s been draining. Toxicity has a fine line of being just toxic and then being abusive, I, unfortunately, have suffered being in both of these situations and I am sure my readers have been also.

If I was to be kind to myself I would describe myself as a nice, caring person who wants to help anyone I can. That in itself can make you a little naive and susceptible to being taken advantage of by people who couldn’t care less about you. Wanting to please someone all the time is something I have naturally struggled with since being a child and has reflected into all of my friendships and relationships throughout life. If you’re anything like me you understand what I mean when I say you’d bend over backwards for someone even if they weren’t giving you anything in return. Even after people around me had pointed out these people were using me and were cruel I still thought I was the problem and maybe it was me that wasn’t doing enough. How wrong was I…

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As mentioned before, toxic people come in all shapes and sizes, most commonly friends and partners. Although, some parents can also be toxic towards their children also. People do usually show signs and red flags, but, we easily ignore them because we want to be accepted or loved. It is pretty common.

They use manipulative tactics to make life as hard as it can be for you. Making someone feel as small as they can is essential to them!

“This ‘friend’ slowly turned me against my true friends. I had looked up to her and admired her, and I was always seeking for her approval. She would reward make me feel happy and rewarded whenever I ignored another friend or said something terrible to them. ” – athenachristy.wordpress.com

It can be extremely stressful when you have to deal with someone who is toxic. For me it would be feeling so sick to check my phone I would turn it off for days on end, if I knew I’d be left on read I would have to delete the conversation with this person so I’d be able to go back onto the app we were talking on without feeling obsessive about checking when they were last online or if they were replying. My hair would fall out in clumps and I’d feel unwell having to deal with these people in my life. Everyone else’s reaction does vary.

“Stressed. If I wasn’t doing what she wanted me to, she’d give me the silent treatment. I was always walking on egg shells around her. But don’t get me wrong when she was nice, she was lovely! But when she was “moody” for lack of a better word, it was awful.” – chimmyville.co.uk

 

I’d always feel this horrible feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach if I knew I would have to deal with these people/person.

“I found it so difficult to sleep, was unable to eat and couldn’t face going to work (we worked together. I would be so worried every day and I couldn’t concentrate on anything else.”

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Life after being in a relationship or friendship with a toxic person is extremely hard. I still find myself finding dating and making friends hard because of past problems. I fear it’ll repeat again. You also become somewhat programmed to expect people are going to use or mistreat you and that your past experience will repeat itself all over again. For some of you, life after being around a toxic person might be able to resume back to normal fairly quickly but for others, it can take time. It is so easy to go over what happened but eventually, you’ll look back and praise yourself for getting out of it when you did! I sometimes still find it tough looking back but it’s something we will get through. Everyone’s healing is different.

“I think the hardest part of this was having no explanation as to why. I started questioning myself. Did I do something wrong? What did I do? Did she never like me at all? I went through so much doubt, frustration, and anger. After having a couple years to mull it over, I now know this was for the best. And it doesn’t matter what the reason was. Clearly, she was never as invested as me, and didn’t treat me with the same respect. Of course, that wasn’t fair to me. I’m lucky the friendship ended when it did; that finally opened my eyes.” –  Haley @ introvertedcreativity.com/
“Heartbroken, I still am.. The person in general I loved to bits so it hurts to loose someone you were so close to, but at the same time.. that constant feeling of worry and stress was lifted. I guess what I’m trying to say is.. You may love a partner/friend so much that you don’t realise how toxic that person is to you untill you let them go.” –mrssleejones.com

You’re not alone in the way someone is making you feel, talk to someone about what it is or how you’re feeling about the situation. Don’t suffer in silence! For me when things got really difficult with these friends and partners I spoke to my mum every time. Having someone that can shed some light or clarity onto things is very helpful. If you get really down and depressed, if your mental health is really deteriorating then please talk to a GP or ring a hotline. Look after number 1!

I wanted to say a quick thank you to all the ladies that helped me out with my post by sharing their experiences, their links are included in the post so go check them all out! It’s really brave and just shows we aren’t alone in all this. I hope my readers enjoyed this post and could also have learned something about dealing with toxic people. Stay safe out there! Take care – Beth x

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2019 Recap and Achievements

Recap for 2019

2019 has easily been one of the worst years I have ever endured. It has been full of pain, sadness and loss. I don’t want to portray this perfect life that isn’t true. Of course, every human has their ups and downs but that’s all part of the course that’s life.

Losing my best friend

In April I sadly lost my best friend to suicide. It was all so sudden and I was completely shocked. I was never fully able to come to terms with the fact he had felt so low he did what he did. Not a day goes by when I don’t miss him, his smile, his energy, everything. It taught me how important it was to talk about mental health instead of keeping it bottled up. If any of you are reading and feel this way too, stop and call 116 123 (UK). It’s a helpline by The Samaritans to talk about how you currently feel.

Toxic Relationships

I won’t touch too much on this one because I don’t really want to talk about it but, I ended a few toxic relationships and friendships this year too. Let’s just say even though it hurt me at the time, I came back out of them a stronger person.

Mental Health

My mental health kindly started to deteriorate around September, luckily after going back onto my medication, I feel a lot less helpless. It’s a slow process but I’ve got through it so many times I know I’ll be ok.

Makeup

Due to a lot of issues in my personal life, I somewhat abandoned makeup and felt a little bit like I didn’t belong in the community. I found it really hard to be creative and express my art when people were being recognised and I wasn’t. Of course, I’m happy for those that were chosen it just sometimes feels like I am not enough. The one thing I have learnt is to stop comparing myself to others and do my own thing.

Health

I know I have been kind of negative so far in my recap but, there are some positive changes that I made this year. I started to look after my psychical fitness more this year, I made working out a priority.

Friends

I have truly found some good friends this year, online and in my personal life. One of the people I’ve grown closest to is my friend Nicole . Even though she battles chronic illness she’s always there for me when I have been at my lowest. The second best friend I have made is Andy, this guy is truly kind and amazing. Thank you for being so amazing!

2019 may have been predominately awful but its been full of lessons. The pain I’ve gone through has taught me so much about myself, others and what to do in the future. Tomorrow I’ll be posting my 2020 goals so stay tuned!

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas mine was somewhat ok, I had to work all of Christmas so I only managed to spend a little bit of time with family. I am looking forward to all the content I have planned for 2010. Take care –  Beth x

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2019 Goals – Blogmas Day 23

2018 is almost at an end, I’ve already reflected and recapped this year in my last post so it’s time to set some goals for the year ahead. I won’t list anything that’s insanely unattainable! Enjoy.

 

Monetisation

I would love to be able to start earning some form of income from blogging, in the future, I would love blogging to become my proper job as I’m sick of pulling pints for a crap wage.

Events

Being invited to events would be incredible! Like to lush to make a bath bomb or to a makeup event! Would be absolutely amazing and I would love to experience it.

Get in shape/self-development

My main goal is to lose weight, build muscle and become healthier. I want to like what I see in the mirror more than I currently do. Also, sounds cliche but I will strive to self develop more and work harder on my mental health.

Attempt to travel

I don’t fly so I would like to aim to do more UK city breaks or Europe ones via the Eurostar.

Work with brands

It would be a dream and an honour to get the chance to work with brands that I love! A dream would be to work with a makeup brand or a brand that I follow heavily such as Deathwishco and Bomb cosmetics.

Be content

I just wish to be very content with life. Content with finances, myself and relationships

Collab

I’d love to collab with more bloggers! Let me know if you’d love to do this!

Day 23 done! I am not in the spirit just yet and I don’t really know why, hopefully, tomorrow it’ll sink in. But after this post please tell me your goals for 2019 below! Take care – Beth x

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2018 Recap & Achievements​ – Blogmas Day 22

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As this year is coming to an end, it makes us reflect on what the past year has put us through. I want to sit here and say it’s been absolute rubbish but I am naturally pessimistic!

There has been alot that has happened in the past 365 days, some things I can openly divulge but some things that are best kept private. But amongst the negatives, there have been some positives! In June of this year, The Makeup by Beth was born after I wanted to write about how bad a foundation was. 6 months down the line, this blog has become my life. Of course, people will state how their views are achievements which I guess they are to an extent but no matter if it’s 1 or 100 people that like my work, it all means something and I will never ever become ungrateful.

I have also been lucky enough to have made some friendships via the blogging and youtube community and I couldn’t be happier! It’s really nice to have like-minded people to talk to and get you through whatever it is I am going through. Below I will list some things off that are classed as an achievement to me.

I faced some BIG fears

It is a big thing for me but in June I had to have emergency dental work done. This meant having needles and I did it! I can’t believe I sat through it and stayed strong. Again, it might seem daft but to me,    it was a big achievement.

I worked harder on improving my mental health

I decided to really take control of my mental health this year, I invested a lot of time into self-care and working on coping strategies. Of course, I have still had those dark times and times where I have wanted to give up, but, it’s been a lot easier to bounce back.

I worked harder on improving my physical health

In February I worked very hard on my physical appearance, I had a membership with slimming world and lost about 2 stone. I have since fallen off the bandwagon but it showed me that I could lose weight, that the willpower and strength was there.

I was noticed by brands

I was noticed by DeathWishCo and since then they have become close friends of mine. I am not affilated and I don’t make money from them but they’re a kick-ass brand that support my work constantly! I have been noticed by some makeup brands that have been nice to comment on my pictures or give them likes, which may sound small but I really appreciate it.

I was voted for a real award!

So I received an email saying I was nominated for a UK Blog Award 2019! I was gobsmacked, me of all people! If you could be so kind and vote for me HERE.

I found myself

This will sound cheesy but after years of feeling like I didn’t belong, I feel like I finally have found where I am meant to be, learnt my worth and won’t settle for less. Blogging and Instagram have definitely given me a drive which I didn’t have before.

 

Please let me know what your biggest achievements of the year are! Doesn’t have to be blog related, can be anything! Take care – Beth x

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Self Care at Christmas – Blogmas Day 16

Christmas, it’s known for rushing and stress. Although I love this time of year, it makes my anxiety go into overdrive so sometimes I need to pull over and take some time away. I am going to show you how I practise self-care at Christmas, keep in mind everyone has different ways of doing it and if you have some methods, let me know below. Enjoy!

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Watch Christmas Movies. I’ll usually sit and wrap presents with a Christmas film playing in the background, it’s usually The Grinch but I do love Nativity! It’s a great method to install more excitement into the festive period, rather than add stress.

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Eat & Drink. We all know that food and drink are the best things about Christmas, well when I am stressed with the online shopping or out in town I love to sit and have a hot chocolate! If I am out I’ll opt for something vanilla or hazelnut. It’s almost like a tea break!

Here is the perfect example of me putting self-care into practice:

So this Friday I went out shopping with my sister, I made a BIG lost of everything that needed doing on that day, so;

  • Presents
  • Wrapping paper
  • Cards
  • Stocking Fillers
  • Health and beauty essentials for me

Let’s just say I became very overwhelmed before I had even stepped foot into the shopping centre. The night before I was anxious about getting everything done, I tried to do something else to distract but felt very unprepared so I couldn’t relax. Once we were in town I suffered multiple panic attacks, so to make everything not seem so overwhelming we took 3 stops, 1 in McDonald’s for a refresh, 1 in Debenhams Cafe for a coffee and lastly Five Guys for something to eat.

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Having these little coffee breaks gave me time to rekindle myself and my thoughts, it was the perfect opportunity for me to reevaluate what I needed to do and which shops I needed to visit. I was able to start ticking things off the list and slowly eliminating my anxiety. I also made sure my body was fueled with energy, hence why I made a trip to Five Guys!

If you’re out Christmas shopping, take regular coffee breaks, make it a bit more leisurely and visit the Christmas market for a bit! After wrapping up hundreds of gifts, get in the bath, drop in your favourite bath bomb and RELAX.

I really hope some of you can take inspo from this, remember to take time out for some self-care. It isn’t selfish one bit, you just need to time to rejuvenate.

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Let’s Talk: Relationships

This is a different type of post for me but I want to break into more content where I can start a conversation with all of you. Keep in mind that these opinions are from my own personal experience and I hope this can maybe help some of you in this current situation or for future reference. Let’s get started.

Today I’ll be talking about romantic relationships. Relationships can be beautiful or painful things that are shared, they’re like rollercoasters, full of ups and downs.

Dating in this day and age is extremely difficult, peoples views on how relationships should be have changed massively. It’s a shock to me to see that people now brag if you’re loyal to your partner, shouldn’t that just come with a relationship anyway?

We also still live in a quite vain society too, with each person having an ideology of what their perfect partner HAS to look like. However, there is more acceptance nowadays but at the same time, people still discriminate on looks. For me, there have been times where I’ve been told my hair colour was the reason I was unattractive (because I wasn’t blonde) and that I wasn’t thin enough. Which again, we all have personal preferences but it damages your self-esteem when people list the things they don’t like about you. Although being told those things hurt me, I’d rather have someone that loves me for me instead of a superficial person so it makes the rejection a lot easier to spring back from.

I have delved into Tinder in the past to actively search for someone and after a day deleted the app, it was horrendous! The number of weird messages I received just made me lose hope in humanity. That’s not me saying there’s something wrong with online dating because you can find that because you speak to them in non-person for a while they have more time to get to know the real you, instead of just the looks you have. I don’t actively search for someone anymore, I prefer to develop love with people I know or have been friends with as they already know and like me for me.

In personal preference, I won’t lie looks are a bonus but I fall in love with a personality. You could be the most beautiful person on the outside and be very ugly on the inside, the same method can be reversed and applied. That isn’t me saying all beautiful people are ugly inside either, just to shut that down now.

At 20 years old I can take my experience so far and put it into practice for the future. The key things to remember are to know your worth, admit when you mess up, be honest, love yourself and communicate. I also strongly think that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t fully love someone else as those issues can contrast and interfere with certain aspects of your relationship. I’ve also learnt that on the journey to finding your ‘perfect’ partner, you’ll meet some horrible people. I know I have before, but each experience makes you tougher and able to face more difficult things in the future. The way I dealt with nasty love interests that treat me poorly was just to walk away, it’s so tough but it get’s easier.

People will hurt you, people will use you and cause a lot of pain. It happens all the time but the one thing to remember no matter how hard it is, not everyone will hurt you. The last point I’ll leave you with is to not force or rush finding someone, you can find love in the most unimaginable and unlikely places. In the past I’ve found love in the people I’d least expect to. Be safe, best of luck and take care – Beth x

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